MAD
You’re feeling: Angry?
Frustrated?
Annoyed?
Irritated?
Because something’s not going the way you want it to:
You didn’t behave in a way you wanted to?
Someone else didn’t behave in a way you wanted them to?
A situation didn’t turn out the way you wanted it to?
Yes No
MANAGING MAD:
THE DESIRE FOR CHANGE
The feeling of anger (mad) results from an expectation not being met. You expect something, and it is not happening. Paired up with anger, you will find a desired change - a wanted outcome.
In other words, you become angry when things don’t go your way. As a result, with anger, you want change – you want the expectation to be fulfilled. If you take that a step further, there is most likely a way that you would like things to go. That way is the change, or the outcome that you want.
Anger can be experienced as a build-up of unmet expectation over a course of time, as a surprise situation that catches us off guard, or anything in-between. Moreover, anger can be experienced on any level of awareness. Regardless of the duration, intensity, or level of awareness, it originates from unmet expectation.
CONTINUE WITH MAD BACK TO FOUR FEELINGS INTRO
The Cognitive Challenge for MAD.
1. Identify precisely what is not going your way.
(Suggestion: Write it down, or clearly make a mental note.)
CONTINUE
2. Identify precisely what you want.
(Suggestion: Write it down, or clearly make a mental note.)
CONTINUE
3. When I consider the big picture...
is what I want integrity-based...
and...
CONTINUE
a) Realistic? YES or NO
b) Reasonable? YES or NO
c) Fair? YES or NO
d) Important? YES or NO
CHOICE
Your NO response to the Cognitive Challenge means a choice is needed to move forward. Choose either...
1) Go to Internal Resolutions – Here you learn to change how you think and possibly make belief system changes.
– OR –
2) Go back to the Cognitive Challenge questions and revise what you want so that you get a YES answer.
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